Episode #134: Interview with Sex Therapist Emily Morse on Tips to Help Spice Up Your Sex Life, How to Talk to Children About Sex, and How to Recover from Sexual Trauma

March 1, 2020

Sex is a major part of life, whether we want to talk about it or not. It is also an important part of our mental health—good thinking means good sex, and vice versa. In fact, great sex is great for our brain health; it boosts our longevity, happiness, intelligence, or ability to form deep and meaningful connection, and our mental resilience, while, orgasms, whether they occur in a relationship or not, have many health benefits, include stress relief and better skin!


In this podcast I discuss why sex is such an important part of our mental and physical health, how to spice up your sex life and improve your relationship, how to recover from sexual trauma and how to become comfortable with your own sexuality with sex therapist Emily Morse, author, Doctor of Human Sexuality and host of the SiriusXM Radio show and podcast of the same name, Sex With Emily. Emily has made it her life’s work to help people have great sex. As she says, life is too short for bad sex, as it is such an important part of our daily life and our overall mental and physical wellbeing. Indeed, many people spend a large part of their day thinking about sex! This is why it is so important that people of all ages learn how to love themselves and get comfortable with their own sexual needs and desires, to not only improve their own sexual wellbeing but also their relationships.

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Podcast Time Highlights:

5:12 Why Emily loves talking about great sex 


7:00 What makes sex bad?


8:00 How to recover and heal from a sexual trauma 


15:20 The penetration myth


16:30 Why women are like slow-cookers, and men are like frying pans


17:18 Good communication is a lubricant 


22:28 How to talk to your children about sex


26:54 Why our society is dominated by male sexual pleasure, and what you can do about it


28:02 Why great sex is great for the brain


28:30 Are we in a sex recession?


37:42 Why many women find sex painful 


43:00 Dangerous sex myths 


46:50 What to do when your partner cheats on you


50:00 Is porn good for us?


53:40 How sex connects us


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In this podcast, we discuss the topic of pornography. Any sex act that supports human trafficking or the exploitation of men or women is wrong, and no one should seek to gain pleasure from watching those acts, even if they are doing so as a couple. Men and woman who want to use erotic, fictional sex scenes to arouse their desire for each other should use resources that do not exploit humans, such as reading an erotic romance novel aloud together or watching a TV show with romantic sex scenes like Outlander. As we mentioned in the podcast, watching sex acts can be harmful to any relationship when it becomes become addictive.